yeah, i'm giving a link to tumblr, sue me. actually, no, don't sue me, i'm broke right now.
i was among those people who felt scandalized about tony talking (forcing?) peter into participating in his own team's mess, too. and i didn't see the similarity of peter's and ntw's situations up until i stumbled upon this post. whoops.
i suppose the reason is that ntw acts like an aloof coolkid and has powers that can blow up a small town; you just don't see a child in her, you see a cocky young soldier instead. and then there's peter with his boyish voice, his stupid homework and his ever worrying auntie m, who seems way more fragile and vulnerable in comparison, which probably is not true. not to mention that ntw was participating in a fight against dozens of armed minions, unlike peter, who was fighting against people reluctant to hurt their former teammates. spoiler.